If you are a mom like me, you’re probably tugged in a twenty different directions on any given day. You are constantly fulfilling the needs of others. From the demands of your job, to the needs of your kids, or your significant other to handling the daily household duties.
I know the feeling all too well. You are constantly giving away your energy and time. And that is when the two words leave your lips.
As a southern raised lady, I was taught southernesque politeness and as a courtesy, I would offer apologies as often as a cowboy tipped his hat to greet a woman. We make apologies for not buying cookie dough from all of your friends’ kids, we apologize for not having filtered water for our guests, and we apologize for not being able to do that ONE more thing in the day.
Do you find yourself apologizing to others when:
- You miss a meeting or function because your kids are sick?
- You didn’t make dinner and grabbed takeout instead?
- You are at work to your boss?
- You forgot to send something to school (I did this just yesterday, myself)?
- You just didn’t have enough time to get the house all tidied up?
In the modern day, we are not June Cleavers, by any means — and even she had her days, right? Today, saying “I’m sorry” has become our go to response to any combination of situations. Saying you’re sorry is often felt as an admission of failing. Failing your kids, failing your friends, failing your spouse, and even yourself.
Is an apology an admission of any true wrongdoing? Are you genuinely at fault for something? Or are you feeling remorse for the lack of ability to have it all together, be in several places at once, and be super mom?
Anyone can go to a parent meeting, bake cookies, or volunteer at a school function. However, we are not super moms (sorry to burst the bubble) and handle all of those things while preparing dinner, helping one kid with their homework, picking up another kid from there, planning a birthday party, paying the bills, and walking the dog —- ALL AT THE SAME TIME.
By setting reasonable expectations and practicing better time management, this will assist in not walking into the small town of apologiyville. You know your limits and there is not need to bring on the feeling of guilt nor an apology.
Here are a few tips to kick “I’m Sorry” to the curb:
- Keep a mini notebook and make a note of when you apologize during the day. Write down why you felt the need to apologize. At the end of each day, determine is there pattern. This will help you become more aware of when you apologize.
- Choose your words wisely. Pay close attention to the value you place on your words. Think of a trending phrase, it begins to lose traction over time and your apologies will too.
- Give them a “thank you” instead of “I’m sorry”. Here is an example: Thank you for understanding, I truly appreciate you and your patience.
Try one of these tips above and come back and let us know what happened.
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