IMG_2209I hesitated with this title, but in the end decided to go with it.

In the midst of my failures, I’ve struggled to regain consciousness. But, I’ve looked back at the beginning of my journey and realized that each failure has been a true gift. Each one has been a time where I’ve grown immensely and learned at astronomical rates. It’s where I’ve learned the most about my passions, beliefs, and strengths. It’s also where I’ve reconciled my shortcomings and devised my next courses of action. Lastly, it’s where I’ve felt so very strongly, the wonder of being human.

Have you ever wanted something so intensely, that you worked tirelessly for it? You poured every ounce of yourself into that one singular thing and still were effortlessly overlooked. And that thing was literally a product of your blood, sweat, and tears. Have you ever pushed so hard toward the finish line only to make it and be pushed back farther than you actually came?

Yes, of course, you have. If you haven’t, then you really need to start living. And if you haven’t, but are living to your fullest potential, then you, my friend, are a rare breed indeed.

This is how most people feel when they are handed a pretty wrapped box full of nothing but failure. The harsh reality of failure fills their entire soul. They become a beacon of despair and that irritating voice of doubt riddles every thought they have. They see failure as the worst feeling ever…

But, it doesn’t have to be a downward spiral of negativity. I want you to do something. I want you to challenge yourself on shifting your perspective on failure. I believe each failure is a gift. Each setback is a chance for you to evaluate your situation and see how it can best be rectified.

3 ways to turn your big failures into a cherished gift:

  1. Realize there’s no such thing as failure, unless you accept it and give up. Giving up is losing hope and believing that you can’t achieve those hard to reach skyscraper dreams floating around aimlessly in your head. Giving up, is not the re-shifting of focus. Many times, failure allows us to realize that the dream we thought we wanted was only a key to unlock the door to what we really want.  Realize there’s no such thing as failure, unless you accept it and give up. PERSIST no matter what. Click To Tweet
  2. Accept failure as a path to true beauty. You are going to stumble and sometimes crumble when a setback occurs. The important thing is to know that failure is a necessary part of that beautiful thing we call growth. Failure tends to have this unique way of bringing us to the rawest, stripped core of who we are. And that my friend, is true beauty.
  3. Change your perspective on it.  See failure as growth. See each failure as a time to reevaluate what your goals are. Failure gives us time to discover faults in our plan and make appropriate revisions. In failure there is always only one way to go…and that’s up.

Realize that failure is not an ugly beast that devours your dreams. Failure is not negative nor should it be embarrassing. To me, it seems as if society has attached a terrible stigma to the idea of failing. Society has skewed and disfigured the face of failure so much so, that many people don’t even bother attempting to follow their hearts desires. Failure should not be shamed. There’s is no shame in failure. Accept the gift that each failure brings and you will always come out stronger and better than you were before.

Failure is a gift because it’s an opportunity to become a better stronger you. It shouldn’t be a place we shy away from. It should be a place we embrace openly and unashamed.

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I’ve learned to take each of my failures as a reminder that I am trying. They are a testament to my ever evolving journey. My failures are evidence of a life well-taken advantage of.

I am grateful for it all. Without the bittersweet taste of losing, I’d never know what I am truly capable of.



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Dejanae Wortham

Dejanae graduated from the University of California, Santa Barbara in 2009 with a Bachelor of Arts degree in psychology. She is a writer, actor, and avid reader. In January 2012, she was featured in Inland Empire Magazine. Dejanae lives in California, has three dogs, and Starbucks is her second home.
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