Idont stop’ve spent a lot of time wondering why some people succeed and some don’t. Of course there are many individual factors that come into play. But, like most things there has to be a consistent pattern formed that connects those who do and those who don’t. Is it that some people are just destined for success and some aren’t? Is it that some people have better opportunities than others? I don’t think either of these are the root cause of falling short of success. I believe that we all are capable of accomplishing what we want. It is evident that a person can come from nothing and achieve everything. So what is the real reason some make it and some don’t.

I believe the pattern that defines who succeeds and who doesn’t can be defined in three simple categories.

We all know someone whose goal was to be a (insert description here), but they didn’t make it to their ultimate destination. They may have had all of the talent in the world, and yet they still fell short of success. What hindered them?

This is what I came up with!

3 Reasons People Don’t Succeed:

They quit. Maybe during their journey they encounter many disappointments and they are unable to find the strength they need to continue. Perhaps they weigh what they have accomplished while traveling their road to success and have come up short to their own expectations. They could also feel that they have tried every possible avenue available to them and still haven’t received the confirmation they seek. But, whatever the reason is they stop pursuing and quit.

Their goal or dream isn’t a priority. They allow everything else in their lives to take precedence over what it is they really want. They don’t make time for their passion and often make up excuses why they haven’t dedicated much time or energy to it.

Time Limit. Many people seem to give their dreams and goals a time limit. They have the idea that if what they are seeking does not occur within a specific time frame then it isn’t meant to be or it’s just not in the cards for them. They decide that they need to accomplish things within a certain time frame to be successful.

Here are ways to combat these common negative endings.

No matter what happens don’t give in to the temptation to quit. You don’t know how close you may be to a breakthrough. Remember there will always be people who don’t like what you do, so don’t allow those specific opinions to hold too much weight. You might face hundreds of No’s before you find your one yes. Quitting is only going to hurt you and leave you with a bunch of “What if” questions and no answers. When you are tempted to quit, try writing down a list of recent accomplishments or things you are grateful for. Try to do a minimal of five things on either list. Doing this helps put things in perspective and allows you to see your progress. You will probably realize you aren’t as stagnant as you may feel.

Make your dream or goal a priority. I know everyone has responsibilities and distractions that come up in everyday life. But even if you only dedicate thirty minutes or even an hour of your time to what it is you really want, that is enough. For example, if you are a writer commit to writing a certain number of words per day. If you are an artist commit to drawing or painting for a certain amount of time per day. If you are a dancer commit to dancing for a specific amount of time. These are just examples, but whatever it is that you do give it energy to thrive in your life.

A time limit is the worst thing a person can do to themselves. It takes time to nurture greatness, so don’t rush it. Have you ever started a project with a set schedule, but slowly realized that it would require much more time than you originally allotted? The same thing tends to happens in pursuit of your vision. So, if you are truly passionate and faithful to your dreams and goals you will not give them an expiration date. Give your goals all the time they need to grow.

Don’t be a statistic. Don’t allow your name to end up on the list of people who didn’t accomplish their dreams and goals. Remember you only fail if you stop! Keep going, success is closer than you think!

Reach for the stars people!

Love,

Dejanae

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Dejanae Wortham

Dejanae graduated from the University of California, Santa Barbara in 2009 with a Bachelor of Arts degree in psychology. She is a writer, actor, and avid reader. In January 2012, she was featured in Inland Empire Magazine. Dejanae lives in California, has three dogs, and Starbucks is her second home.
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